There was a time when I loved high heels and had a closet full of them. As I have gotten older, I am more into comfort than style. I got rid of my heels after tearing my meniscus in the right knee and having to have surgery. Dr. told me nothing higher than 2 1/2 inches which I have stuck with at least 95% of the time.
Being comfortable is more important to me these days than being fashionable. I am not saying I don’t like to dress up because I do. I just prefer those dress up clothes that also offer comfort which can sometimes be hard to attain.
When it comes to heels I should have been more concerned with my health, as they really are not good for you because of the way they force you to stand. My back probably would have been in better shape had I never donned a pair of really high heels. But, when younger, I liked the way they looked.
Point being, your tastes change; how you feel about things change. Change is constant. Do we embrace it or do we get with it kicking and screaming all the way, or do we just never change. It’s impossible I think to never change.
I am one who is resistant to some changes and embrace others. Just depends on what that change happens to be at the time. I usually give in to technology changes — slowly — then wonder why it took me so long.
As for the change to Daylight Saving time we just experienced, I vote for just leaving it one way or another. Don’t really see the need for this change anymore.
Newspaper itself is changing; adapting to the times. Some things never change though, like some officials not wanting the public to know certain things or trying to keep some issues quiet. Though by now we should have gotten rid of the ”good ole’ boy” in politics, we haven’t and it still strongly exists.
Another thing that never changes in newspaper is that your friends and enemies change on a weekly basis, depending on what’s in the newspaper that week. Has always been that way and that won’t change. People love you when you are on the same page with them and agreeing to everything they say and do but once that changes, then they don’t like you anymore. Community leaders are also susceptible to this malady on any given week. Even if you happen to think you are friends, they can’t separate the two and if you write about a controversial subject they can let you have it. What I have learned over the years is that, if leaders are transparent and truthful, the public is more accepting.
I keep my newspaper and personal life separate as possible and can agree to disagree and still be friends with no hard feelings. Some people can’t and some hold grudges for the rest of their lives. I feel sorry for those people because they can never have real peace, nor do they move forward from the issue. Just because I disagree with you doesn’t mean I dislike you. The opposite is also true: just because I agree with you doesn’t necessarily mean I like you. I do try to find the good in everyone though. I do not understand someone not liking you just because you disagree with them, especially if they liked you before you disagreed. After all, adults are supposed to act like … adults!
People these days are not thinking about their actions and how they relate to people. All of us are different; we have our faults, yet we are unique. The Bible tells us how we are to treat people and we need to apply that to all areas of our dealings with folks.
In the newspaper world, we deal with politicians and others on a regular basis. If we decided that we disliked all of them because they didn’t agree with us, we would soon be out of business. I try to get along with everyone, even those who rub me the wrong way and I can deal with those when I need to as well. Regardless of who they are or what they have or haven’t done, we have to treat people with respect until they give us reason not to and then we still should be respectful for our own sakes.
We alone, are responsible for our actions and we will not pay for the actions of anyone else when we stand at the judgment seat, only our own. So, even though our society is changing and not necessarily for the better. It’s up to us to keep things in perspective and not let how we treat people change just because of what’s going on in the world.
Neither should we change our core values and belief system. The Bible is the same today, yesterday and tomorrow and its message never changes. When we waiver on things in the world that could be consider sin, we are setting ourselves up to allow more and more corruption to slip into our lives. Just because someone doesn’t agree with us or doesn’t like us because of how we feel on an issue, should not change our stand, unless we decide we were wrong in the first place. It is one thing to be tolerant, but another to accept wrong as right. And just because everyone around us accepts it, still doesn’t make it anymore right.
Each of us has to stand for something, or as a country song says, you will fall for anything. Are you standing on the promises of God or on man’s? Have a blessed week.
VICTORIA SIMMONS is a columnist, motivational speaker/ minister and publisher/gm of The Post/Byron Buzz. Reach her by email at firstname.lastname@example.org