We are each the sum total of our experiences, yet those experiences do not define who we are. Though it’s politically incorrect these days to say so, we are all children of the King and therefore that is what defines us, not anything else.
I see so many people being dragged down by their past because they either can’t let it go or feel they are unworthy. Someone in their lives, told them that fact and they keep playing it over and over in their head. They keep making the same mistakes over and over and many times all of their relationships suffer as well.
Life, as we all know, is not easy. No one ever told us it would be and if someone did tell you that, they were wrong. That, however, doesn’t mean we go around defeated. We should be thankful for every day we live, and live that life to the fullest. It’s not going to be perfect, but there will be some perfect days here and there.
Dwelling on past mistakes and failures serves no purpose but to keep you wallowing in it. If you are living in the past, you are missing today’s blessings. We are not promised tomorrow, so being held down by the past doesn’t do any good.
Everyone, and I do mean everyone I know, is going through something right now in their lives. Whether it is a loss, an illness or something else going on with a family member or a beloved pet. We should be giving support and being encouragers.
Sometimes all that is needed is a hug, a shoulder or just a listening ear. Other times just being there and not saying a word is the best course of action.
Too many people put all of their drama and dirty laundry out on social media these days which causes hurt feelings and more drama. We all can do with a little less drama in our lives.
Women it seems are the world’s worst at making jabs at other women. This makes no sense to me. As women we know what other women go through, so we should be able to understand them better. We know men will never truly understand us. God created men and women to be different.
As women we think we are not pretty enough, skinny enough, good enough, smart enough and on and on. Some people turn to drugs or alcohol for these reasons. We are our own worst enemy at times. The truth is, in Christ, we already have the victory and that’s how we should live our lives — like we know it.
We see other people prospering or excelling and think something is wrong with us or wonder why we aren’t doing that well. Christ has a plan for each of us and we should trust in that plan. No one else can walk our path, it’s ours to walk.
It doesn’t matter who you were or what you did in the past. If you have accepted Christ, you are forgiven and that settles that issue. The enemy, satan, of course, tries to use all of that against us and to keep us off course.
God loves us just as we are but He won’t leave us that way. He wants us to grow in our relationship with Him.
We are to walk by faith, not feelings and if you give in to feelings which can be fickle, you will be discouraged. Stand on God’s promises and what He says about you, not someone else.
I addressed a group of young people last year and the message was to finish strong. Doesn’t matter how you started out, or where you are at right now, you can finish life strong. If you are going in the wrong direction, you can turn around and get back on the right path. Finishing strong takes commitment and determination and faith that God is leading you to the finish line.
None of us get out of here alive, so we need to make the most of the time we have. Love on the people who love us and make an effort to be in our lives and let the rest of them go. It’s hard I know but life is just too short to live any other way.
I know miserable people because they let other people constantly drag them down. They are upset when they don’t visit or call or return phone calls or act as they want them to act. It happens to all of us, but we must prioritize and not let such stuff drag us down.
God moves people out of our lives at times, even family. And when that happens, we don’t need to go and drag them back in unless that’s God’s plan for us.
We get too caught up in the minor details and don’t look at the bigger picture. People will always disappoint you and let you down so don’t put your faith in them. Our faith should be in the one, true Lord.
Determine to be an encourager. Don’t listen to gossip. Don’t participate in the negative. Don’t put dirty laundry out for everyone to see. Forgive and forget and keep moving forward. Eagerly participate in this adventure called life and surround yourself with people who feel the same way.
We are all just traveling through this world anyway, on our way to our heavenly home. Make a difference today. It’s never too late.
VICTORIA SIMMONS is an author, columnist, motivational speaker, minister and publisher of The Georgia Post/Byron Buzz. Contact her at: firstname.lastname@example.org