Here we are on the third day of 2018! Doesn’t really seem possible but it’s the truth. Personally, I’m full of hope and anticipation for a year full of God’s blessings.
Take the lessons learned from the previous year, move forward and forget the rest.
As the year ended, I was asked to officiate a wedding. I didn’t know the couple but time spent on the phone in conversation and then in person counseling gave me what I needed to know and that yes, they were indeed in love. It’s my desire to personalize my ceremonies and always ask God to guide me, so I needed to know some things about each of them. I also counsel with them before marrying them.
It is sometimes hard to counsel older couples, as at our age, we tend to think we know everything and there are no new tricks to learn. That is so not true, because you should always be learning. If not, then you have become stagnant. That means you cease to move, cease to develop, become inactive or dull. None of which is a good thing.
Sometimes we have become stagnant and don’t even realize it. Becoming stagnant means you start to decay. So growing and continuing to learn is a way to avoid stagnation.
One area in particular we allow to stagnate is our relationships. We allow negative people, fake people and complaining people to bring us down which leads to stagnation in the relationship. One of my goals this year is less drama. With a lot of prayer, I have come a long way in this area. God has removed many of the people who are all about the “drama”. Some of those people were drowning in drama and if you continue hanging with them on a regular basis, you will end up drowning with them.
Unnecessary drama brings stress and other ailments into your life. Something none of us need. I don’t believe there is a way to totally eliminate all drama because sooner or later, we all have an encounter with someone who is overly dramatic. But, we can lesson that exposure to toxic people in our lives but it takes work.
Recently, someone who called themself a “friend” deleted me from Facebook. Usually our first reaction is to feel hurt because it is like a rejection. This time my first reaction was to be glad because that meant, no more of the drama from her. So, no hurt feelings. Just a praise dance! It’s all in how you look at it and I have been working on looking at things differently.
You see sometimes we attract that drama because of our reactions to toxic people or we can even create it ourselves. So, I’m focusing on my reactions. Life is way too short to let the little things become big things.
We all need encouragement and positive, upbeat people in our lives. So, this year I will be spending more time in those relationships that are that way and provide laughter, calmness, happiness and help me grow in my relationship with the Lord.
Poor communication can cause drama as well so I am trying to be more direct and open. If something comes up and I develop an issue with someone, I try to go straight to them and talk it out. It’s not easy and not everyone appreciates such directness, but I feel much better afterward. Participating in drama, just feeds it, so nipping it in the bud is an accomplishment and helps prevent stagnation.
To overcome any stagnate areas in your life, you first have to identify them. Social media and our cell phones attribute to stagnation because they keep us from doing other things and from remaining in motion. You need to unchain yourself from both which in today’s society is easier said than done. Start out with small doses of doing without and work up to longer times. It can be accomplished. Determine to remain in motion.
Being grateful for life and realizing how short it is helps keep me grounded and to overcome stagnation. Helping someone else in need or just offering a word of encouragement to someone who is down, also helps. If we focus on other people, we are not focusing on ourselves.
Trying new things and re-examining and establishing your dreams are enemies of stagnation.
Knowing that everyone has a point in their life where they feel stagnate or that they are in a rut, also helps because you realize you are not alone and that it is normal.
Get off the couch, put your phone down and unplug if you don’t want to stagnate. Up your prayer life. Have a conversation with God about everything in your life. He cares about the little things as well as the big things. Determine every day to be grateful and to keep moving forward. Tell God that’s what you want to do and He will help you accomplish that feat.
So as we are now in the new year, is it time for you to adjust your attitude? Ring in the new attitude of encouragement, hope and peace. Get your attitude right by putting God first. Get rid of those things which drag you down and the negative thinking. You’ll be much happier when you do. Blessings to you each this year.©2018
VICTORIA SIMMONS is an author, columnist, motivational speaker, minister, copy writer/editor and publisher of The Georgia Post/Byron Buzz. Contact her at: firstname.lastname@example.org