Facebook notified me this week that I have been a member for 10 years. Ten years and society has taken a definite nosedive!
Social media causes anxiety and if you are easily offended, you most certainly don’t need to be on it. I belong to a group of Boxer (dogs) lovers and someone offered prayers to a member whose dog was sick and some crazy person went off on them saying they would no longer be a part of the group if it was going to push religion. Really?!!
What happened to everyone is entitled to their opinion and if you disagree with something, ignore it and keep on scrolling? That’s what I do most of the time, unless something is posted which is so off base, untruthful and ridiculous where I think people should know the truth. I try not to though because inevitably someone is going to disagree and want to either keep the banter going or just be plain rude.
There is a lot of debate these days about social media censorship and I have been censored a couple of times for conservative posts or faith posts, therefore I know it to be true.
Google is also censoring as well as changing information as on wikipedia. I don’t really do twitter but I’ve heard they are also doing the same thing. You can be sure it is happening to you; that’s just the chance you take when entering the world of social media.
What I would like is for people to quit texting and messaging and have honest to goodness conversations. I prefer being called over texting any day of the week.
I know several women who have gotten off social media because it was stressing them out. I’ve noticed after several weeks, they certainly do seem much calmer. I believe everyone should take breaks from it for periods of time.
We use it for work and therefore, it is sometimes hard to stay off because we are checking messages or posting things to our page. Otherwise, I would prefer not to use it all. Too much drama and I’m not into the drama.
Social media has altered our lifestyles and not for the best. In doing a social media checkup you may be surprised to find out how much of your time is wasted each day. I say wasted because I ask is it really necessary.
It might be great for staying in touch with someone far away and seeing photos but some of those photos shouldn’t be posted because predators are out there looking at them, especially those with children. It also has been proven that social media alters your brain.
What happens when you take a hiatus and disconnect from social media? Don’t say it’s impossible because it has only been about ten years that social media was hardly even on the radar. We got along fine for centuries without it.
If you do try a fast, you will find that you will be happier with yourself. It has been proven that social media fuels narcissism and vanity. People post photos and even statuses hoping others will agree and give them a “like”. Do you really need that affirmation? The Bible also tells us our good works shouldn’t be done to everyone will praise us and should be in secret. I like the good stories, but we shouldn’t be doing good things for people to notice.
Everything on social media is filtered and edited. It makes everyone’s life look perfect; or on the other spectrum it can make them look petty and crazy if they are airing all their dirty laundry.
So a social media fast would take you away from the fantasy perpetrated there and you’ll stop comparing your life to everyone else’s.
Stepping away will free up some of your time and give you a chance to get other things done – something hopefully meaningful and productive. You’ll even start to notice things you’ve never noticed before because you were looking at your phone or computer.
We may think social media connects us but in reality, if you are glued to a screen, you’re not really connected. Burying your face in the phone means you are ignoring everyone and everything around you and you aren’t even away of things which may be happening around you. If you just look you’ll discover there are a lot of things going on around us that are certainly more rewarding than scrolling through a news feed.
If you’re wondering what you can do instead, how about actually read a book. Not on the computer as that taxes your eyes. Start an exercise program, or at least go for a walk. It’s good for you and helps clear your mind. Cook more meals or spend time with friends. Start a conversation with someone you know or even someone you don’t know yet. The list is actually endless.
Isn’t it time we actually lived our lives and starting enjoying them instead of posting about them? Social media is addictive, yes, so do you really want to be addicted? If you do a fast you will also become more focused and productive; your brain will be a little less scattered and sooner than you think, you really won’t miss it if you are living your life. Many of those friends on your list you don’t even really know anyway, so why not spend face time with the ones you do know.
I challenge you to try it for a month and see how you feel. Your brain will thank you for it and I bet you’ll feel a whole lot better and calmer.
VICTORIA SIMMONS Is a columnist, author, motivational speaker, minister and publisher of The Georgia Post/Byron Buzz. Contact her at: firstname.lastname@example.org